During a time when we need it most, we let self care take a back seat, and it's the one thing that can make all of the stress and anxiety a thousand times easier to handle.
A few weeks ago, after being sick, tired and sore for the first three months of pregnancy, the stress of the last year, which had built up over a long time, came out in a bit of an explosion and I remembered only I had the power to make it better. A change in my personal circumstances wasn't going to make it better, more money wouldn't make it better, and I certainly couldn't go back in time to change the things that had piled onto my shoulders. I had to nourish myself; take care of myself, in order to make it better.
And it literally piled onto my shoulders. I've always had problems with my shoulders, and over the last few years I've learnt that they get really bad when I'm stressed. On my second day of healing, I went to see a friend of mine who is an acupuncturist. He said something to me that has stuck with me since, and that I remind myself of daily.
"What would your shoulders say to you if they could talk?"
My reply: "Stop worrying."
It was that simple. Worry wasn't going to fix anything. So I stopped worrying, and the world didn't fall apart because I wasn't worrying. The Earth kept turning, my life kept going, and I started living in the present again.
On my first day of healing, I had lunch with two good friends, one of whom was pregnant and a day past her due date. She is one of the most beautiful souls I know and she was the most positive, calm and serene pregnant ladies I've ever seen. She reminded me of how special a thing it is to have a little human growing inside you, and she reminded me that I needed to give myself a break and just let myself rest and enjoy being pregnant, because the time goes fast and before I know it, my little human will be here.
My last bit of healing was a yoga class, which I've been going to with my sister for the last few weeks. It's a gentle class where you're free to go at your own pace, and afterwards not only do you feel stretched and fit, but you also come out of it feeling serene, like nothing can touch you - nothing can upset you or harm you.
After those three days, I started feeling like me again. The fog I had been under for those first months of pregnancy was lifting and I felt more in charge of my own life again.
You know what else happened? After I stopped worrying, reconnected with good, positive friends, and did something nourishing for my body, the stressful situations began to change into more positive ones. The things I was worrying about were no longer there to worry about.
It's not a coincidence, either. I began to put positive energy out into the universe, and in return the universe provided everything I needed.
At the end of the day, none of us are perfect, even those of us who promote healthy lifestyles for a living sometimes fall down. But it's not about how many times we fall down. It's about how we pick ourselves back up again and what we learn from it. I would not be able to be the health coach I am without fighting my own battles, without knowing what it's like to feel the way my clients have. The advantage I have is knowing what it feels like to win those battles and come out stronger.